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my last week of teaching – biblical roles

January 25, 2011 Leave a comment

Earlier in the nine weeks, we went through 1 Corinthians and there were some ladies upset with how their roles were being portrayed so we spent some time off and on talking about what that meant and then in my last week, we talked through it in more detail.

Categories: Faith, Teens

my last week of teaching – passion

January 24, 2011 Leave a comment

We also wanted to take a look at what it means to have a passion for Christ and that to have a passion for Christ and living a Christ-like way means that we can’t live our lives learning more stuff while stuck with in the four walls of a building.

Categories: Faith, Teens

my last week of teaching – Identity

January 23, 2011 Leave a comment

Here’s the first one of 4 presentations given. I believe many teens have no idea what it means to identify themselves in Christ as opposed to success, popularity, guys, girls, money, family… so we took a day to take a fairly basic look at what it means to identify ourselves in Christ.

Categories: Faith, Teens

Planting Seeds and Your Life Journey

January 21, 2011 Leave a comment

One of the ideas that always intrigues me is the idea of planting seeds. How we can come into someone’s life, plant a little seed that he or she may or may not even realize and move back out of his or her life. It happens all the time for many of us. There’s one reason I think it’s important to think about it. At times, we get so frustrated that we can’t change that one person we seem to be pouring into. Let’s take a second and back up and look at our own lives. How many people have helped shape you into who you are today? Usually, there are at least 10-15 different people that we can honestly say have impacted our lives in meaningful ways. With many of these people, there’s an event that caused them to step in and be there for us. It may be a positive event like heading off to college or taking a big step in your faith. It may be something tragic, like a death or even heartbreak, loneliness or stress.

So who are they for you? Here’s my list of seed planters, which, when I give my faith/life journey, are incorporated in one way or another. I’m not sure I’ve even told them all that they’ve made the list. I know that the first two on the list know and although the third one didn’t know, I had an opportunity to express it at his funeral a few months ago. I suppose, it’s time to tell the others.

  • Steve Fish – camp counselor in 1986 when I gave my life to Christ. (2nd grade)
  • Mrs. Tippin – teacher who encouraged and supported me when no one else did (5th grade)
  • Mr. Stinehelfer – teacher who modeled what it meant to be a manly man and truly care for people simultaneously. (6th grade)
  • Kurt Steinke – counselor who modeled how youth ministry should be done. (early middle school)
  • Lynn Thompson – my first youth pastor who was involved relationally with the youth. (high school)
  • Matt Hallman – showed me what it means to be the real me regardless or anything else (2001)
  • Dave Ramseyer – modeled how to love on teens and show them Christ in their world. (2000-2006)
  • Tim Hallman – taught me that ministry takes passion and extreme faith and the results aren’t always as quick as we want but we have to fight through them for the sake of Christ. (from way back in 1996ish to the present.)
  • Tim Smith – gave me a swift and continual verbal lashing to step up in my marriage (2009 to present)
  • Nathan Hyde – work your butt off for your family while choosing sacrifice to keep faith and family first regardless of the material cost. (last part of 2010)

I think anyone could take a look at those 10 people and figure out what events go along with that while coming to a decent understanding of who I am and what I’m passionate about and called to. I’d challenge you to take some time to put one of these together. It doesn’t seem as awkward and personal to approach it this way but I think it gives a more complete picture of who I am in a few short sentences.

Categories: Faith, Teens

Does youth group (and the like) create dependent Christians?

December 26, 2010 Leave a comment

It’s been about a month since I’ve posted anything but I’ve been thinking a lot about this and I had a conversation with a few students this morning who were on break from college. We ended up talking about how hard it is to lead faith-filled lives outside of the structures they had put in place in their “safe zone”. I thought it was probably time to put some words down. I’m sure this will rub some people the wrong way which wasn’t intended but is an expected consequence.

We all have our safe zones. It’s that place we grow up in and feel secure in. The place where people don’t really ask us much that’s personal but we know that if we really have issues, we can come to them and they’ll help us bandage it up until the next time we need them. The place that we fill with Christian “things” like youth group, church, Campus Life, Young Life, book studies, retreats, camps, events… the list could go on. None of these things I’ve mentioned is bad. They all have their value in the faith journey of a teen. My issue is whether we should be fostering independent, dependent or interdependent faith.

I hear too often from students that head off to college that they have no idea what they are supposed to do in their faith. Many teens see their faith through the lens of their church, youth group or para-church ministry. When that piece is removed, the core of their faith is shake. What are they supposed to do? Who’s fault is it? What role does the church or para-church group play in this rampant failure during one of the most crucial and formative times in a person’s life?

Jesus’ ministry was all about preparing them for when he was gone. This should be the church’s mentality as well. A church shouldn’t have such control of one’s faith that once it’s removed, the person falls on their face and doesn’t know what to do. It also shouldn’t have anything to do with measuring success in our walk.

It may appear that I’m only blaming the institutions (the churches and para-churches) when I put just as much blame on the people who are apart of them. If someone truly wants something, they will do whatever it takes to get it. If a runner wants to go faster, they take as much time as they can, even outside their scheduled practices, to make sure they have their form down, that they are getting stronger and that they are eating right. Most likely, they have a coach or someone who they run with who they go to with questions and encouragement. The runner does the work. It’s not the coach’s job to make you run fast. It’s the coach’s job to make sure you have all the tools you need to be successful.

There are many other comparisons to running that I think are valuable to think question. Paul says several times, “Imitate me as I imitate Christ.” This can be seen in good coaches. Many coaches had successful careers in their respective specialties, the runners know that the coach knows what he/she is saying. Is this done in regards to faith? Many coaches won’t be successful if they say “Hey, meet here again next week and make sure you’ve at least looked at your runners manual and know what we’re going to talk about. We’ll play some games and then at the end, we’ll talk about running for a few minutes.” That team would be an utter failure. Instead, the coach expects that the runners will be, on their own time, taking steps to know how to do certain things and actually putting them into practice.

Jesus went to the people. Paul went to the people, The apostles went to the people. Jesus said this will be hard but if you’re willing to follow me then join me. Paul talked often about the beatings he endured because of his faith and then told the churches, in his letters, to imitate him. Most of the other apostles lived rough lives as well as they lived to imitate Christ as he commanded.

Christianity has to be lived out. We’ve had more than enough training. I currently teach at a Christian High School and many of the students there have had years of training yet very little interest in looking at faith through the lens of Christ, instead choosing to look at faith through the lens of their Christian education or church’s youth group.

Most, have read the books and talked about how to best run but are so obese in their own selfishness that we couldn’t run even if we wanted to. We know to stay loose and not tense up, to control our breathing, to stay focused ahead, to pace ourselves, to get in a rhythm, and lastly to enjoy the experience. We talk the talk but couldn’t hack it if it came down to it. We have to choose, on our own, to create opportunities to grow in our faith and these opportunities don’t happen once a week in a particular location.

Church – Our job is to disciple. It’s not to have the most friends or most fun. Our job is to train them so that if you were not around tomorrow, they wouldn’t skip a beat because they are confident in their abilities in Christ.
Teens – Your job is to do the work it takes to grow in Christ. The church is a great resource for you to accomplish this but you only need to stop looking at faith through the lens of your youth group and look through the lens of Christ. If your youth group or Campus Life/Young Life group was removed (like when you go to college) would you have any parts of your faith left?  Are you so dependent on those groups for your faith that once you move on from them you have no idea what faith looks like?

Luckily, like a coach who has a lot of fun but doesn’t empower the runner to get better, you have the ability to find a spiritual coach, or leader, who will help get you there. It’s your job to get off your butt and make your faith real and pray and read the Word and hold your friends accountable. It’s our job to empower you to dig, discover and develop your faith along your faith journey.

So back to my initial question. Should we as adults in the church be fostering independent, dependent or interdependent faith?

Independence is freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others. In faith, we should be part of a community and part of a body that allows us to accountable to and responsible for different aspects in our faith. We should not be independent Christians

Dependence is a need for something so strong that it becomes necessary to have this substance to function properly. Unfortunately, this is where many teens fall. They are so dependent on their church or group that they don’t know what to do when it’s not there. Although this is great for the church because it keeps people coming back, it creates a destructive pattern for many teens when they go off to college or move to another town or even stop coming to church. They lose all they know and don’t know how to recover in their walk without going back to that one group or church because they’ve viewed Christ through that group or church. Too often, we only foster dependent faith because we need students to keep coming back to keep the energy high or to keep our numbers up or one of many other reasons.

Interdependence is a dynamic of being mutually and physically responsible to, and sharing a common set of principles with others. No church can be everything to everyone but as faith goes, someone has to do the majority of the work and it shouldn’t be the church. Filling seats doesn’t make disciples. Teens who desire Christ and who have trained and are training, regardless of their level, should be equipped by the church or group so they don’t fall but can continue to move forward. The church is a supporting role in the lives of a Christ follower, not the main goal. A church’s resources should be reflected in the same way. It shouldn’t be a “come to us” dependent type of ministry but one that encourages living differently and getting out and being the church, not coming to it.

Categories: Faith, Teens, Youth Workers

Old Self vs. New Self.

September 11, 2010 Leave a comment

I’m teaching Bible classes this semester at Blackhawk Christian School and as we finished up Galatians in the freshman class, we took some time to reflect on it.  One of the main points Paul hits on is old self vs. new self. I don’t think it can be more clear as to what it’s saying as he says it so many times in so many ways.  Here’s a list from Galatians:

  • Slavery vs. Freedom
  • Child vs. Man
  • Slave woman (Hagar) vs. Free woman (Sarah)
  • Ishmael vs. Isaac
  • According to flesh vs Through promise
  • Present Jerusalem vs. Jerusalem above or New Jerusalem
  • Persecuting vs. Persecuted
  • Gratify the desires of the flesh vs. Walk in the Spirit
  • Under the law vs. Led by the Spirit
  • Works of the flesh vs. Fruit of the Spirit
  • Sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. vs. love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control
  • Reaping corruption vs. Reaping eternal life.

Now, Paul says you can’t have both, that you’re either in the Spirit or you’re of the flesh.  With so many ways to justify what we do, what if we made a list of some of the major areas of our lives and then checked how well that area lined up with either the Spirit or the flesh. Take a few minutes and take an honest look at these and compare them to the old/new self list above.

  • Your faith (more about relationship or about making sure you do certain things)
  • The relationship with your parents
  • Your appearance – why you dress the way you do
  • Social media – Facebook, Myspace, Twitter…
  • Technology – Web, texting, pictures, iPod, computer
  • The relationships you have with your friends
  • Boyfriend or Girlfriend
  • Your daily attitude
  • Media – Music, TV, movies
  • Where you find your identity
  • Your conversations, what you spend time talking about.
  • Forgiveness

At the core of who you are, taking these earlier points into account, are you more still living as your old self of the flesh or in your new self in Christ?

It’s a good self-reflection to see just how much of our lives we still crave to hold on to and how much we’ve given over to the One who gives us life.

Categories: Teens

Infants and teens part 3 – Thoughts from the past

Part 3: thoughts from the past

A few weeks ago, I was watching Supernanny. Of course, I watch it because I learn how to deal with my high-energy daughter Makenna. It’s actually been helpful on many occasions. Anyway, there was this family in England that gave their 4 year old a bottle and ground the regular food to a pulp and still fed it to their two and a half year olds… I was shocked. The parents said that the kids just couldn’t eat food unless it was all blended. That they couldn’t handle it.

Yesterday, I thought to myself, I wonder if Mattie can hold her own bottle. I hadn’t tried it before but why not? At first, she didn’t want to take it because I wasn’t holding it but then if I held her hands their she did.  If I moved my hands, she would hold it for a while but then she would get destracted or move her hands and then she would cry because she was frustrated. Well this morning, my wife put her in the beanbag, stuck the bottle in her mouth and Mattie grabbed it and finished if off by herself.  I started to wonder how long ago we could have done that… and why did I think she couldn’t do it.

Like I always do, I started to think how it related to youth. I don’t know why I do that but I can’t help it. Do adults treat teens like infants and, in essence, hold the bottle for them?  Do adults still mash up the food and feed them? What would happen if teens “held their own bottle” or took the fork and chewed their own food? What does that even look like? Is it more that adults are afraid that teens will screw it up or do adults just know what to do next?

I think teens can and will step up and do much more than adults think they can but it can be a little unnerving to let them go.

Categories: Faith, Parents, Teens, Youth Workers